Linda Yaddow 07/02/1948 - 04/08/2012

Linda Yaddow April 8, 2012

Linda Yaddow, age 63, of Rome, passed away April 8, 2012, at University Hospital in Syracuse, with her loving family at her side.

She was born July 2, 1948, in Rome, a daughter of Nicholas and Mary Wilson Montalbano, and graduated from Rome Free Academy and SUNY Brockport. She was formerly married to Wayne Yaddow. Linda was a kindergarten teacher at Denti School until she retired at 55. She was a member of St. Mary’s Church.

Linda is survived by Wayne Yaddow of Rome; two daughters, Trisha Yaddow of Rome, and Rachel Yaddow of Scarborough, ME; three sons, J.R. Yaddow, Ryan Yaddow and Travis Holmes, all of Rome; a sister, Nikki McConkey of New Orleans, LA; a brother and sister-in-law, Philip and Ascenza Montalbano of Arizona; grandchildren, Gabriel Yaddow, Dakota, Tea and Justin Russell, and Jacklynn Joslyn. She was predeceased by a brother, Joe Montalbano.

Funeral services will be held Thursday at 9:45 a.m. from the Barry Funeral Home, 807 W. Chestnut Street, and at 10:30 a.m. at St. Mary’s Church. Burial will be in St. John the Baptist Cemetery.

now i lay me down to sleep.....

...I pray the Lord my soul to keep. If I should die before I wake, I pray that Heather knows I want only happiness for her sake.

I am grateful for the 13 years of joy, happiness and love. I lived these years with security and gratefulness for your returned love. However, the time ended. The expiration date arrived. Move along.

I'll be OK, I'm finding WenDee....I might even find little Wendy to pick up and hold and reassure that just because people leave it doesn't mean I'm not important and that I don't matter, but rather its because life happens and there are no guarantees, no matter how desperate you wish you could write the ending to the story of a journey.

I look to the God above who I know has carried me all through my life, and I say thank you. Thank you for giving me not what I want, but rather what you believe I needed.

Good night sweet angel. Rest in your Dreams my love.

splashes of happiness in my day

I need to put this out here, before i either lose courage or something gets mucked up.
I have male friends who are truly such an incredible asset to my life! My work 'husband' who is funny, helpful, kind and gets pissed and cracks me up! I have other men on my team who also contribute to me loving my job, and I'm so thankful.
I have friends from all different states, that I've met in all different ways, that provide each one a different perspective and yet they all seem to genuinely care and love me. I'm so honored that I have discovered this year as it being true; you really know those who love you when they support you always - but not having to agree with everything - just showing this love in many ways. I couldn't possible name them all, that's how blessed I am! I am hoping that you reading this realize that I'm talking about YOU!
Now, as a wonderful kind spirited, emotional, honest, and truly human (yes, he makes mistakes) friend recently shared on his FB, I'd like to tell you about my day.
After waking up not hating getting out of bed (first sign) I was able to take the dog on a long walk and enjoy the cool dry weather. Having plenty of time, I was able to get to work early and set up for a rather busy day I knew I had ahead of me. I got sidetracked, a lot, but found by doing so I was able to tackle the jobs quickly and complete them. When I arrive home at lunch, I bump into Chris and I was able to help him with Lacy, and that just really pleased me to spend time with my other 'girl, my dexters sister. I miss her so much. As an added bonus, Chris and Jon decide to walk with me to my apt to come get something their mother had asked to have. Being able to just talk to them for a couple of minutes, made me so happy! I love those boys and my heart has also been empty not being around them. I miss them but it was a great surprise to see them :) Now, my sweet friend Crystal constantly brings a smile to my face! Without asking, she brings me either my favorite coffee or tea from the birista. I hope she knows that I am grateful and I never take her kindness for granted! Today when I was coming back in from lunch there she was with her beautiful smile and a peach iced tea waiting for me. The day only escalated from there - one thing after another - that just made me feel that I am alive, I am important, and I matter. Out of the blue, someone brought me salmon that they could not finish. I hadn't had lunch due to my busy break and I was hungry. Whalla. There was lunch! Then, I made a phone call to a gentleman that was not happy. 45 minutes later he was singing my praises and telling me he will be a yahoo forever just because of the service and time I gave to him! Really sir, I LIKE to help people, but it was so nice to hear. Then my boss knew about the extra work that i put in with that case so he tells me that he wants to provide to me dinner! He accidentally leaves a full order of beef stroganoff purchased earlier from the cafe...and tells me he'd like me to have it. Now, I'm sorta broke right now (yeah IRS, kiss my....wait, I'm not doing that right now!) and also I have sort of resented making the meals recently that end up in the garbage because cooking for one is just hard to do (gotta learn portion sizing!). I just feel so full of blessings. I know there are a LOT of steps I need to take, some of which will happen this coming Sunday with a new group I'm going to check out (self help) but I feel stronger today. I feel like I can do this or at least there is hope that if I'm able to see the glory in things then what I once thought was the end of the world maybe, just maybe, its not. I can't wait to be with my family again. I need their hugs, their help and their love - but I also need WenDee; the Wen that finds the good and appreciates her skills and her heart. I'm sorry this is so long and it probably should have just gone on my blog, but no one really reads that thing...and I wanted to share with you all that after 2 months.....I'm thinking that I might be OK. ♥ to you all!

feelings

i wake up every day thinking of you, what you are doing, how you are feeling, the smile on your face, your eyes sparkling. I go through out my day hoping you are well. I still see your smile, even though its been a long time given to me. I smell your perfume and wish that it was applied for me, for my pleasure. I go home from work seeing the apartment complex and wanting to talk to you, to laugh with you, to hug you. I am home at night and until I fall asleep off and on crying for what I've lost. for the good times, even the harder times, but the times we were together. that was when i was in my glory. i really thought we were it forever. i know you closed your heart and shut the door way before you let on to me. but even when you suggested you thought i was smothering you or that you needed space, i didn't really thing it was you kicking me out of your life. i thought that it was because i was going through a hard time understanding what was going on with you pulling away from me and also trying to figure out what was going on with me. i never really thought you would want me out of your life. i truly thought you loved me. i truly believed all those words you said to me. i trusted you that my heart was your home and that you believed in me and supported me. my anguish now, my torment now is beyond hard. most every single day i wish i would disappear or sleep or something would happen to put me out of my misery that I have to endure daily. now, you've blocked me completely. i'm not allowed to even be your friend - the promise you made when you pushed me away - you said you would never do what russ did to me, that i would always be your girl, that you will always love me. but you don't. you went back on everything and i'm alone, without even your friendship. i saw you yesterday and had to pray every step that i would keep my mouth shut. to honor what you want. you want me to go away. i do not know because you will not talk to me. i have to assume that i am dead to you. and most days, i wish i really were.

no words

no words can express my sadness for my dear friend passing away yesterday.
she was my kindred spirit - a constant friend to me during some of the most difficult times i've had in the last 5 months.
she gave me wonderful advice, talked to me through my pain and sent me goodies for my dog when she knew he needed extra love and attention.
living a life of giving and loving, what a wonderful woman, and yet had to put up with so much shit from two exes and many medical issues.
I love you Lyn. Thank you for being my friend. I'm sorry we never will get to go on that cruise we planned on going together in 2013. God bless you and rest now sweet sweet spirt

slow

i used to think time flew by so fast...and now time seems to be slower than its ever been in my entire life

i'm so grateful for my job. i get to go to a place where people smile at me, give me a hug, ask me questions, wish me a good day, bring me a surprise coffee, laugh at my jokes, appreciate my help and then i get paid. if not for my work, i don't know how i could have survived the past 3 months. thank you God for my job and for those He has put into my life.

i am looking forward to great things coming my way. exciting and wonderful things! i've been given the opportunity that i didn't even realize i needed or wanted, and yet, here it is.

every moment is a gift. each day my quest is to be thankful and look ahead - not behind with what was done that brought me much sadness. some days this might be hard, i'm sure, but with continued strength and grasping tight onto the truth, i will forge on and be the person i know I am which is good, kind, loving, giving, helpful, funny, loyal, and is the one and only - wendace lynn.